Male vs. Female Maine Coon: Which Should You Choose?#
When browsing for kittens, the first question usually is: “Do I want a boy or a girl?” With standard cats, the difference is negligible once they are fixed. With Maine Coons, the difference is noticeable—both in size and “vibe.”
I own one of each (Atticus the Male, Penelope the Female), and the dynamic is fascinating. Here is the honest breakdown to help you pick.
The Size Difference (Sexual Dimorphism)#
Maine Coons have a massive size gap between genders.
- Males: 15 – 25 lbs. They are the “tanks.” They tend to have the blockier heads and the goofy, oversized paws.
- Females: 10 – 15 lbs. They are still big cats, but they are more elegant and proportionate.
- The Takeaway: If you strictly want a “Monster Cat” for the wow factor, you want a male. If you want a large but manageable cat, get a female.
The Personality Gap#
This is anecdotal, but almost every breeder I’ve spoken to agrees:
- The Males (The Clowns): Boys tend to be goofier, more outgoing, and more “in your face.” They remain kitten-like for longer. Atticus is a giant toddler.
- The Females (The Queens): Girls tend to be smarter, more dignified, and the “boss” of the house. Penelope runs the show. She is affectionate, but on her terms. She is the one who figures out how to open doors; Atticus just waits for her to do it.
The Lap Cat Factor#
- Males: Often too big for a lap. They tend to lie next to you or drape across your legs.
- Females: Fit better on a lap and are often slightly more independent.
Conclusion#
Both genders make incredible pets.
- Choose a Male if: You want a giant, goofy, high-energy clown and don’t mind 25lbs of cat jumping on you.
- Choose a Female if: You want a deeply intelligent, slightly more independent companion who rules the household with grace.
Resources & Further Reading#
- Maine Coon Cat Club: Gender differences in growth and temperament.
- VetStreet: Sexual Dimorphism in Feline Breeds.